Black History Month And Valentine’s Day With The Ebony Femdom

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Let’s chat about what’s happening at LDW this month. It’s February which means it’s black history month, and Valentine’s Day is four days away. We can go with black history month or black heritage month if you will, first. Disclaimer: I have a tendency to mix a little bit of realness with fantasy. I want you all to have a good time with me, and education on the things that affect your black Mistress, are valid points of education. I love losing myself in a fantasy, too, and forgetting at least for a little while, all of my troubles. So with that said, here comes my rant. And then we can chat about Valentine’s Day.

Black History Month With The Ebony Femdom

Last year during black history month, I had a lot to say about some sh*t I experienced and a lot to say about the behaviors of tone deaf white people. So lemme give you a brief run down and get you up to speed. First off, blackfishing/blackface/digital blackface is never okay. Not when black people are targeted and losing their lives for the color of their skin, are you gonna sit here and pretend to be black even for a second. You can get the fuck on with that bs. Black people gain nothing from racism, or reverse racism – which doesn’t exist – but white folks love finding anywhere to be victims so that they don’t have to take responsibility for their actions. So this is me saying once more: Educate yourselves – and stop expecting black women to educate you, and get the fuck outta your feelings. Because I don’t care if you don’t like what I have to say.

Why Can’t Black People Just Get Over It?

With that said, I want to just tell you, that I understand why white people have such a hard time understanding why black people keep bringing up race and discrimination. Come closer, lemme whisper it into your ear: Because YOU have never experienced racism, because YOU are not black. Of course you wouldn’t know what it feels like to be shot at simply for being black, or discriminated against. You. Can’t. See it. Which is why when black people share their experiences, you need to listen. Because you will never in this lifetime know firsthand, the difference between BLM and storming the capitol because your presidential candidate lost and you’re butthurt about it. FULL SHADE.

We Don’t Need Anyone To Speak For Us

Do me a favor and stay in your fucking lane. While you may never experience racism, that does not absolve you of any responsibility. Close your mouth and open your ears. White people riot when their team loses, black people riot because we’re tired of being killed, the two are not the same, never will be, you are not special, sit the fuck down. And while we’re on the subject of black people being tired, you know what I’m tired of? People policing black women’s vaginas; white men thinking it’s okay to call me up and tell me you love n*gger cock. I’ve said this before, your privilege has made some of you real comfortable being out of pocket. I will check you, and if you get your feelings hurt that was your life lesson moment. Do better. Don’t ever disrespect black women and/or men when speaking to me. You will very quickly lose the privilege of being in my presence AND I will tax you for your faux pas.

If You Don’t Want The Same For You Don’t Do It To Us

I am going to tell you something that you may never in life understand. And that is that black women deal with a very multi-faceted experience when it comes to discrimination. And obviously someone who has the experience is going to be the one that can tell you about that experience. So being loud and talking over black women is never okay. And please miss me with the passive aggressive “we’re all one soul/color” because that is the go to verbage many white zen spiritualists use when they want to ignore racism. And when they are trying to silence us and tell us that saving cows and eating vegetables is more important than the well being of black women. Ignoring racism does not solve the problem, and pretending to be hyper spiritual and love everyone, while ignoring racism, also does not solve the problem. A lot of your experience, is rooted in privilege. Remember that.

Does The Ebony Femdom Dislike White Folks?

Nah. I will tell you that if I dislike someone, it has nothing to do with skin color (with the exception of racist white people then hell no, I don’t fuck with yall). I appreciate people who respect themselves and respect others, and treat others as they would like to be treated. Regarding the above: Yes, we are all one race of beings; and yes, we are all deserving of love and compassion, in reality race was made up to control people, and we’ll all be better off – with a better quality of life – without racism.

Black History Month Rant Over – Let’s Talk About Valentine’s Day

If any of you are wondering if I’m this intense in real life, the short answer is yes. I speak my mind and refuse to hold my tongue to make white people comfortable. The more in depth answer is that I speak up when I have something to say and other than that I really don’t fuck with anybody. The world would indeed be a better place if folks learned how to mind their own business and stop complicating things that don’t need to be complicated. Anyway as I said, switching gears let’s talk Valentine’s Day. I’m not a super militant black woman – so I do enjoy having fun and celebrating hallmark holidays like the one on February 14th. It’s a really good day to show your appreciation to the LDW Mistresses. And this year we are allowing you to buy your Mistress a valentine. You have until February 14th to participate, here’s how you do that: Go to phone sex audios, click the highlighted link to be taken to the Mistress valentine page. You write your note to your Femdom Sweetheart, and on Valentine’s Day the Mistress, or Mistresses, will receive your hearts. You may buy more than one, for one Mistress, or more than one, for several.

Valentine’s Day With The Ebony Femdom

I will be taking calls on Valentine’s Day, so if you want to wine me, dine me, and have me sit on your face, you will have a chance to do that, on Sunday. So my Valentine’s Day request for you good people out there, is to do some emotional labor, and legwork, and surprise me with something I will love, for our call. If you wish to get me a gift for Valentine’s Day – in addition to buying a valentine from the above link, I have a wishlist on Etsy, and wishlist on amazon. You can buy me giftcards from either, or both, which will ensure I am able to treat myself to something lovely, at your expense. Please send giftcards to willow@enchantrixempire.com You are also welcome to send reparations in the form of a virtual bouquet, through dispatch. I expect to be pampered, spoiled, serenaded with music by Tanerélle, and treated like an Ebony Princess, Valentine’s Day weekend. So make sure you do just that. To schedule a call with me, and to send a virtual bouquet, dial 1-800-601-6975 and ask for Duchess Willow. If you would like a custom phone sex audio from me for valentines day, please go to my custom audio profile. If you want one of my phone sex audios, click the link to go to my store. I hope you’ve enjoyed getting schooled and up to speed. Have a wonderful week, stay safe, and stay blessed.

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It’s Always Black History Month For Duchess Willow

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Happy leap year yall. Black history month lasted an extra day this year, and I hope that you all have taken the initiative to learn and apply what you’ve learned about black women, and black people. Black History month lasts all year for me. And I’d like to share some things I’ve learned this month, and I have a special message for my fellow black sisters. The lessons black women learn from the world around us are often painful ones. We live in a world that is committed to misunderstanding us, and also very comfortable in their privilege. There is a hierarchy to privilege, and I’m going to break that down for you. And then we’ll get to the fun and sexy ebony femdom experience. There’s a lot to unpack, and I’m going to say some things that need to be said.

Trigger Warning: If anything I speak on, is triggering to you, please stop reading and go speak with a licensed and accredited therapist. 

A Message To Black Women Everywhere From The Ebony Femdom

This is a tough one, I am going to ask “us” to let it go. I do not mean let go of our experiences and our history. I mean stop taking everything personally that people do. Here’s why we need to start doing this:

  1. It’s essential for black women to heal. We cannot heal if we refuse to let go.
  2. The people that are attacking us, behaving ill mannered toward us, being toxic and traumatizing us, are vibrating at a lower level, and of lower intelligence. There’s a hierarchy to intelligence, and you can always increase and improve your intelligence.
  3. Your anger is valid, and if you keep vibrating on that anger it is going to make you sick. Hard truths are hard for a reason.

Privilege And Cognitive Dissonance

When I said there’s a hierarchy to privilege, the breakdown is simple. Black men have more privilege than black women and they have male privilege. Non-black poc have more privilege than black men and women. White women have more privilege than black men and black women. White men have more privilege than white women, non black poc and black men and women.

Be Strong And Firm In Your Boundaries And Speak Up For Yourself

This is slowly changing, and as it changes, it’s going to take certain groups out of their comfort zone of cognitive dissonant bliss. While it’s changing, and while there is so much happening in the world, black women still need the most healing and the most understanding, and it’s time for us to start looking inward, protecting our energy, and having integrity and taking care of our needs. And for us to start demanding that those needs be met, or closing off access to “us” for the people who refuse to respect our boundaries.

Purging Toxic People And Behavior

That means you may notice the volume of the people you start cutting off going up. There’s nothing wrong with you, and you are not responsible for other people’s lack of understanding. My advice to you is start grounding and start holding everyone around you accountable for their behavior. And also start holding yourself accountable for your own toxicity, projections, and any pain anger and negativity you feel.

Hold Everyone Accountable Including Yourself

If you ask someone to stop doing something that is triggering you, or toxic to you, and they continue to exhibit the same behavior, even after discussion, and they continue to display selective ignorance, selective deafness, selective illiteracy and show signs of being obtuse and hard of listening, cut them off. This goes for yourself and fellow sisters. I’m gonna say this and repeat it if I have to: You are not responsible for someone else’s healing, education, understanding, or self care. All these things are on an individual basis and if someone is triggering you or your mental health and you’ve asked them to stop, it’s time for them to go. If they’re hurt, that’s okay, their feelings once they’re cut off are none of your business. Your healing IS your business.

Emotional Labor And Black Women

I have a tendency to attract very clingy and needy people – if this triggers anyone in me speaking on this, please seek council with a professional – who require a lot of emotional support and constant coddling and reassurance, and it has gotten to the point where I have to check it as soon as it happens, as opposed to letting it slide because it affects my energy levels. Black women are – more than any other demographic – expected to take care of everybody, while neglecting our own needs, and being silent because nobody wants to hear us complain or speak out when something is wrong.

Speaking Up Vs. Being Silent

A lot of zen, new age spirituality teaches being silent and refraining from reacting. Many of these teachings while true, are rooted in privilege. Black women can’t afford to be silent. If we’re silent people will continue to take advantage of us. One of the things I’ve learned is that there is a time and place to speak the unspeakable, which means speaking up when something is wrong, even if the other party isn’t going to like what you have to say. Speak your truth, if it causes a blow up or the person doesn’t want to hear what you’re saying, let that person go.

Avoid Toxic Situationships

This is another experience many black women face. Staying in toxic or unhealthy relationships because you love the person; because you think maybe things will change; because you want to help them. You can’t help them; it is not going to get better, it’s going to get worse; men who are emotionally and verbally abusive are just as harmful as men who physically abuse women. Emotional and verbal abuse, and gaslighting is often more damaging because you can develop whole ass disorders. So heed my warning, if a motherfucker shows signs of being abusive, emotionally draining, ill behavior and gaslighting you and trying to downplay your concerns – get the whole fuck out of there. The block button is your friend, cyber harassment is a thing and you can report someone who is abusive, threatening, or attacking you.

Hold Men Accountable For Emotional Labor

I would love for yall to read the following tweet thread about emotional labor, and the link to what emotional labor is. Black women: If you’re with a man who neglects his physical and mental health, is prone to acting out and having emotional meltdowns, guilt tripping you, manipulative behavior, send his ass the fuck on. If you call him on his behavior and he makes excuses for it, tell him that’s a conversation he needs to have with a licensed therapist. If your man doesn’t have a doctor and refuses to get one, he belongs to the streets, boo. Let him go and you go heal. You are not responsible for anyone else’s mental or physical health.

YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE ELSE’S MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH

A little louder for the people in the back: YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE ELSE’S MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH. You are not responsible for someone else’s healing. Hold them accountable and if they refuse to respect your wishes give them their walking papers. And that’s on periodt and emotional labor and accountability.

Start Putting Everything Out On The Table And Tell People What You Need

A lot of men will be very surprised if you put expections on them from jump and make them adhere to your boundaries. Put it all out on the table from jump. Don’t be afraid to ask them if they are able and willing and accepting of your standards. There’s no time left to be afraid to have standards. Also be prepared to walk away from that table, if your needs are not met, and move on. Black women are Queens and deserving of love and respect that doesn’t traumatize us. If more of us speak out and demand respect and treatment owed, our voice will be amplified.

Blackfishing And Digital Blackface

Another warning: If this triggers you, talk to a licensed therapist please. And remember, only hit dogs holler.

If you are in the virtual world, there is currently a black history month exhibit. You can find it by searching for it in world. A couple of days ago I posted about this on flickr, about how appropriating black culture, and blackfishing, and digital blackface, is not only disgusting, and disrespectful, it’s racist. And I will call a spade a spade and anyone who has issues will have to deal with that on an individual basis. There is a level of cognitive dissonance with people in the virtual world, where they refuse to see how their behavior is harmful to black women, and while I am very understanding on many subjects, my hard limit is digital blackface. It is triggering to me and makes me very uncomfortable, being around people who are not black women, who insist on making black female presenting avatars, and use the excuse that it’s just a hobby for them.

Your Comfort Is Not My Problem

I refuse to stay silent to make ponc’s comfortable. The main reason many ignore racism in all its forms, is because if they acknowledge it, they have to acknowledge their privilege. If they acknowledge their privilege, they have to move from their comfort zone. Many ponc’s and non-black poc’s are unwilling to make that move.

My Blackness And My Culture Is Not A Hobby Or A Costume

Pardon my strong language here, my motherfucking blackness is not a motherfucking hobby. You do not get to choose what you’re offended by and what you turn a blind eye to, and then slap me in my face with disrespect. I mentioned this on Mistress Harper’s show, there is a disconnect with non black people (people of no color specifically), where because they have not experience the level of racism and hatred and abuse that black women are assaulted with, they fail to see how any of the aforementioned is a big deal. And I’m about tired of mouth breathers telling me what I’m allowed to be offended by or speak out on.

Selective Ignorance Selective Illiteracy Selective Deafness And Selective Memory Loss

If I mentioned to you that something bothers or offends me, that means you stop doing it. PERIODT. You refrain from disrespecting me with excuses and mansplainations of what your experience has been, if you are not black, and you are not a black woman, FULL STOP. Stand down. You have no voice here and we don’t need you to speak for us. I have a right to be angry as do all black women, when people want to blackfish and pretend to be a black woman “because it’s cute or pretty, or you love our skin coloring and black features.” Yes black women are pretty, cute, beautiful, and also exclusive. If black women can’t walk down the street or even exist without being harmed then you are not allowed to facilitate any behavior that harms black women, and that includes pretending to be a black woman or man. So my advice to black women is this: If you see something, say something. If it bothers you, speak up. You do not have to stay silent when you see something is wrong, and by doing so you’re allowing the perpetrators to get away with things they have no business doing.

Men Who Target Fetishize And Have A Parasitic Attachment To Black Women

Toxic masculinity as it pertains to black women is real. I have blogged about the need for diversity training and education on issues that affect black women specifically. I have noticed in addition to my attracting some very emotionally needy or unstable people, that there are unhealthy men that  are toxic in a way that might be deceptive and traumatic, and unnoticeable to the naked eye unless you’re paying attention to the signs. Ladies do not be bamboozled by unhealthy men who are looking for a mammy. It caused me to do a lot of soul searching, and to do some serious internal review. If the word mammy is offensive to you, it is meant to be, and it’s how a lot of unhealthy men see “us.” Since I am no one’s mule, mother, teacher, or therapist, I will not take responsibility for men who won’t even take responsibility for themselves.

Virtual Gender Bending

While I don’t care who is what in the virtual world, I do care when it pertains to more personal interactions. There are many people in the virtual world who choose to portray a gender different from the one they are in real life. There’s nothing wrong with this, unless it is being used for deceptive purposes. An example of that, would be men who have female presenting avatars and use them to get close to women, or men who spend 90% of their free time as a female presenting individual, and target heterosexual women as companions. There’s simply not enough time for us to discuss how this could traumatize the women who are pursued by these men. To anyone who might question virtual culture, 3D online dating is akin to long distance relationships and there are many people who are looking for companionship within virtual.

My Message For Men

Stop wasting women’s time. Please make sure you are taking care of your emotional, mental, and physical health needs by talking to a doctor. And please stop traumatizing women by choosing to be selectively ignorant, concealing your intentions and needs, and dumping your issues on them. Targeting women to latch onto them for your emotional needs, without being forthcoming about those needs, is predatory and toxic. Using deceptive tactics to get close to women that you know wouldn’t talk to you otherwise, is toxic, trauma inducing, and predatory. If you’re confused about your sexuality or emotionally misguided, talk to a doctor. This is wholly your responsibility as a man. And you can choose to do better or continue to be trash. If you continue to be trash you will end up exactly where your behavior led you. The worst part of this, is that there is a chance that you will fail to get your needs met and you will traumatize women in the process. Or you will have your needs met for a time, until the women realize you have no intention of meeting theirs.

How Does All This Tie Into What I Said At The Beginning Of This Post?

In order for black women to let go, and heal, we need to be able to identify problems at their core. It doesn’t matter if it’s online, or in person, it needs to be called out. These are issues that affect me, and affect my interactions with everyone around me, and affect other black women. I am not the only black woman who has spoken out on white men cloning black female avatars (you think I’m lying? I’m deadass), or dating women to get closer to them so they could copy their avatars. These men are doing things online that they know damn good and well they’d be blasted for in real life, because they have that layer of protection being online and doing it.

Strange Male Behavior

Dudes on virtual be fuckin weirdos man. Not just predatory creepy but like… needing psychological help, headass weirdos. The worst on 3D is the gaslighting and manipulation. For this reason, I have chosen to stay far away from any man who spends 90% of his time on a female avi (and I’m about done with men period, right now). I am not referring to anyone who is non binary, and secure in their sexuality and secure in who they are. I’m referring to the sexually confused, unhealthy, effeminate men, who conceal their issues, force the hand and emotional labor of unsuspecting women, and refuse to get the help they need.

These Things Are Happening In Real Life

If you think virtual culture is wild? At least you have the option of blocking and moving on. Online dating opens up a lot of cowardly behavior, it does not stop it from happening in real life. You’re welcome to live your life as you choose. Please make sure you’re considerate of the people who care about you. It does not make it any less damaging, just easier for people to hide. White men fetishize black women in real life on a regular basis. I’ve said this before, there are men who either want to fuck us or be us. You cannot possibly understand how wild that is for someone to experience.

Why Am I Sharing This?

To save the pain and grief of not just black women, but any woman who needs to hear this. I want people to be aware of the low hanging fruit, and lower vibrational energy floating around. And then once you’re aware of it, take steps to protect yourself and take steps to make sure you avoid being equally toxic.

Black History Month – A Summary For Black Women

Focus on your healing and be kind to yourself. Be aware of those who would wish to rob your energy. It’s okay to be angry, sad, and speak your mind, avoid dwelling and festering that energy, because it will make you sick. Hold people accountable, know yourself and what you need and ask for what you need. Be prepared to walk away empty handed and start over. Check yourself. Speak up and use your voice. Blackfishing and digital blackface is racist. State your expectations of any man you interact with up front and hold men accountable. Men are 100% accountable for their behavior and equally accountable for emotional labor. If a man refuses to take care of himself or respect your boundaries let him go. Cut off anyone and anything that does not serve to heal, enrich, or uplift your life. Beware the signs of toxic male inauthenticity.

My Expectations Of Black Women And My Callers

Do better. Learn. Read. Research. Heal and take responsibility for your healing. For my callers I expect yall to learn how to be respectful in approaching and interacting with black women. I expect you to ask questions and state exactly what you need and want. I’m not nearly as scary or intimidating if you’re respectful. I like to have fun with my callers and give them an experience that will hopefully grow into something meaningful and fruitful for us both.

My Expectations Of Non-Black POC and PONC

Approach everything you are reading with maturity, and without crying and victimizing yourself (and really this goes for “us” too). I see right through that, so don’t even attempt it. If reading about a black woman’s experience is upsetting to you, please ask questions, instead of attempting to make everything about your own experience. I mock people who don’t read, by the way. You will be quizzed on this material.

We Care About Mental Health At LDW

Regardless of race, sexual orientation, or gender. We care so much that we’re having a special guest and accredited kink friendly therapist joining us on March 4th. So remember how, I keep telling yall that if you’re triggered or have issues you need to talk to a therapist right? Now you can. Tamara Powell will be talking with us live, Wednesday, March 4th at 7pm Eastern time. Peep the flyer for details.

And Now For The Sexy Ebony Femdom Stuff

Now that you’ve had your educational schooling, I require reimbursement for the time and energy I took to write all of this and keep you informed. I accept reimbursement and reparations in the form of ebony femdom phone sex calls, virtual sessions, wishlist gifts, and tributes. Tonight, as we bring in March 2020, I’m interested in making you my bitch, and hearing you moan. I also require a foot massage and ass worship. So get on it. The number you dial, is 1-800-601-6975 and you ask for Duchess Willow.

 

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Black History Month With The Ebony Femdom

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Disclaimer: If any of the black history month subject matter is offensive to you or hurts your feelings, go throw that on a damn therapist. 

Good day white bois and caucasitious beings. It’s February, you know what that means don’t you? It’s Black History Month. Reparations are due, and there are few ways you can pay for your sins and please The Duchess. For one, you can stop sniveling and whining about how you’re tired of hearing about racism. I know you have a disconnect where blackness is concerned, unless you’re blackfishing and appropriating our culture, I don’t give a damn. How you feel about it is none of my concern, and it’s only going to make your white boi training during black history month more severe. So let’s cut right to the chase: NONE of you will be cumming this month, and you will know the pain and discomfort of more than just orgasm denial.

Black History Month With The Ebony Femdom

For the people in the back complaining that caucasitious is not a word, yall bitches make sh*t up every day and claim you discovered it and no one ever questions you, so go sit on your mouth. We’re going to discuss why black history month with the ebony femdom is important. First of all, you need to understand that before you fetishize another black woman, you’re going to be well versed on who we are and why your behavior is racist. Notice I didn’t say – before you fetishize “a” black woman? Because I know you’ve already done it. Many of you fetishize black women on a daily basis. So why don’t we start with racism, a subject that makes many white people uncomfortable, because it demands them to acknowledge their behavior.

Racism And Fetishizing Black Women

To fetishize a black woman is simply to see her as a sex object instead of a human being. Many white men see black women as mammies or sex objects or loud and angry. All of these are wrong. For anyone who will argue about fetishizing women in general, you’re part of the problem. Here we are talking about black women and you feel the need to interject your unsolicited commentary and include all women. When a black woman is talking about being fetishized, here’s how to participate: 1. Shut the whole fuck up. 2. Listen.

Fetishizing Black Women Continued

Now as I was saying, the reason there is a difference between fetishizing all women and fetishizing black women – and there is a difference – is because even white and non black women of color get more respect than black women do. I have seen with my own eyes and ears and spirit, how mostly white men will take liberties with black women and say and do things in our presence they would never do or say toward non black women. The same sadly goes for some black men – but that’s a whole other conversation involving internalized racism and self hatred and misogynoire. Many men shift in both verbal and body language when around black women and feel “more comfortable” talking down to us or in front of us, because we’re seen as “less than.” It is the reason that those who fetishize black women do not see anything wrong with their behavior, and is based on stereotypes about black women.

Yes We Are Sexy And Beautiful.. And Also Smarter Than You

Black women are the furthest thing from stupid, and we live in a society where freedom to be sexual and express a woman’s sexuality, is reserved for the racially ambiguous and for non blacks. Black women are told to “have respect for ourselves and put our clothes back on” because “you know what people will think about you if they see you behaving or dressing like that.” I was raised in that sort of stifling and isolating upbringing. Where you’re told to focus on being a good girl and because of double standards, black women who dress and behave in a sultry and provocative way are seen as fast and uncouth.

Ebony Femdom Beginnings

Thankfully for me, I never listened to other people and their opinions, and I did as I pleased and became a sex worker and an ebony phone sex provider. Yet I still see around me, the glaring contrast in how white sex workers are treated, and even how they treat each other as opposed to how they respond to us. And I have touched on the need for diversity, and the toxic behavior on social media that is poisonous to black women. The point I’m making in all of this, is that I am really tired of seeing black women ridiculed for being sexy, for being attractive, for being sexual, and being feminine, in a world that expects us to be hard, strong, and coddling to everyone outside of us.

Black Women Embody Intelligence.. We Have To

And also expecting us to be stupid, as if we cannot be sexual, and sexy, and feminine and intelligent all at the same time. Regardless of education credentials. I’m not a college graduate, my intelligence and my wit have nothing to do with a piece of paper or a test. I can boldly say I have more sense in my head that most people who have masters degrees. And it has a lot to do with privilege, that thing that yall keep denying exists. Oh, and of course, there are those of you that think if you hear us using AAVE or slang, that we must be uneducated coons. Keep thinking that, because it will only allow me all the more power to destroy you.

Racism: Black People Cannot Be Racist

I said what I said. Racism is a system of oppression and is privilege based on skin color, therefore black people have no benefit from it. Can black people be prejudiced or discriminate against someone? Yes we can, that is where the difference lies. I know it makes you angry, you’re still wrong. So go sit in your little corner of wrongness and go do your research. The issue with having this conversation about race, is that there are people who solidly believe in their belief systems, and will not listen to anything outside of their belief system. What they’ve been taught and stand by. Those people aren’t the ones who interest me, they will end up gagging on their own ignorance. The rest of you I challenge to see outside of your little white bubble you’ve been living in, and for the women, I challenge you to understand what I’m saying without getting your white tears all over your computer screen.

The Correlation Is Simple

What does this have to do with the ebony femdom? We’re getting to that, you needed the life lesson first. The BDSM and kinky humiliation is coming next, for all those of you that are willing and able to be led by a black dominant. There is racism within the kink community too. Keep the following words out of your mouth at all times: “I am not attracted to black women” or “I don’t find black women appealing” congratulations, if you ever used these terms, you are very much racist. You’re also racist if you ever used the term “ghetto” to describe a person place or thing. And you’re hella racist if you thought the Kardashians invented cornrows and box braids.

You Are Racist Until You Educate Yourself On Why

And also understand that white people are inherently racist due to the society they’ve been raised in that taught them there’s a difference in how you treat people based on skin color. Yes, even you, and your having black friends are included in that group. And if you think sleeping with black women makes you not racist, you need your teeth kicked in. Because men will fuck a woman they can’t stand; men will fuck black women and still view them as animals. Men are disconnected from their erections, so fucking a black woman doesn’t mean a damn thing.

Racism In The Kink Community

In a world where black women are seen as strong, dominant, mouthy, having an attitude, hard and as mules that can take the weight on their backs, you’d think they’d be perfectly welcomed in the kink community. Sadly even there, black women are excluded from participation, and then invited to spend money when it’s convenient. Because of closed minded societal standards of beauty and attractiveness, here too, skin color plays a role. Slowly that is changing, however if you look around you, black dommes are the minority. They are just as experienced, and probably just as popular, but black women in femdom are also treated with less respect than their white counterparts. So what to do about this? Education is needed, and also, for black women’s voices to be heard and listened to.

Black History Month With The Ebony Femdom – Humility Is A Great Teacher

I talk a lot about diversity training, and a form of ebony cuckolding that does not involve your typical “black bull” if you will. I loathe the term “spade” because of what it stands for. Yes I’m aware of the fetish, yes I’m aware it is popular, and yes it’s racist as fuck. My style of cuckolding will have you respecting your black superiors. My style of white boi training involves me sometimes taking matters into my own hands. That includes the occasional strapon, and for those with a taste for tgirls – some erotic ebony shemale action. First though, I need to clarify. I do not use the terms shemale, or tranny, or faggot, unless someone specifically asks for those words, asks to be called those words, states that those words are part of their kink. Calling a tgirl a tranny or shemale is disrespectful and dismissive. Periodt.

Your Ebony Femdom Training

Consider everything discussed in this blog entry, part of your ebony femdom training. And since it is black history month, and my favorite thing to do with white bois is humiliate them, I have a special assignment for you. I’m going to love it, I really don’t give a damn whether or not you do.

Diversity Training Assignments For Black History Month

Go out and buy a pack of white undershirts. Make sure you have enough undershirts for every day of the week, and for every day of this month. Buy a pack of tighty whities too while you’re at it. Get a big black sharpie marker. I want you to write, in all capital letters: PROPERTY OF THE BLACK QUEEN WILLOW across the front of the undershirts, and wear them every day for the rest of the month.  Write in all capital letters: WHITE APPROPRIATING COLONIZER IN SLAVE TRAINING across the back of the undershirts. On your tighty whities, on the front of that trash dick in all caps: WILLOW’S DICK on the back, in all caps: WILLOW’S ASS. Every day when you rise from slumber, I want you to stand in front of the mirror, slap yourself hard in the face 10 times, and say: I am a pathetic white dog, after each slap.

White Boi Humiliation Training

You will wear these every day for the rest of the month, as a reminder that you serve a Black Queen and that The Duchess controls you. If the marker fades in the wash, you will write over the lettering to keep it clear in your mind and in your heart, that you are my slave. Think of it as ebony femdom reparations. For the rest of your training, you need to pick up the damn phone and call me. The number is 1-800-601-6975 and the name is Duchess Willow. I also will accept Mistress Willow. You are allowed to send me pictures of you in your white, slave training attire, however for every picture you send, there had better be a virtual bouquet or an amazon gift card before hand. In addition to the disclaimer, if you’re offended by a black woman talking about racism, you can kiss my black ass. Until next time..

Duchess Willow

Willow@EnchantrixEmpire.com

Twitter: @DuchessWillow_

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