I had the pleasure of speaking with Virtual Vixen, Mamia Orio and we chatted about sex work in the virtual world, and our experiences as virtual sex workers. Obviously online sex work is technically virtual sex work, too, but we’re specifically discussing the adult industry as it pertains to people who use 3D avatars and digital sex workers.
The Ebony Femdom Interviews The Virtual Vixen Mamia Orio
While virtual sex work is not necessarily a new concept, The Virtual Vixen gained recognition for being an only fans content model, after making over 100K using solely her avatar, on the popular platform (you can also find her on Playboy’s subscription site. She offers the same services that many “real” content models offer, and since this is something I have knowledge of myself, I instantly became a supporter of hers. Now with the uncharted territory of offering something that no one else is offering at the time, you’re gonna have haters. Especially people who aren’t part of the gaming community and are ignorant to the fact that men will pay for many different forms of kink artistry.. especially when they’re horny.
The Virtual Vixen And The Ebony Femdom Discuss The “Haters”
Yep. When I first started at Enchantrix I was only a virtual Ebony Femdom and you could only do sessions with me via the metaverse. So guess what happened when I joined the sites using an avatar? Oh yes, everything from naysayers to men asking silly questions about whether or not I was a real person. There was also the occasional backlash on twitter, from people who were ignorant of who I was and what I was offering. Mamia did share that she had content models talking trash about her, and the cattiness of the industry we’re in. Basically people were acting real weird because we’re doing something different that they don’t fully understand. But here’s the positive take away.
Getting To Know The Virtual Gamer Girls
Most of our society thrives on mediocrity and fitting in. So imagine you’re offering a new service, doing something no one has done before, and people looking at you like you’ve sprouted an extra head and horns. As I’ve mentioned before, talking to me vs. assuming sh** is always going to be a completely different ball game. And once men did sessions with me and got to know me, they realized what I offered and the personable experience I provided. Mamia also mentioned that people are completely different when you talk to them and get to know them in private, which is definitely FACTS. So what did we learn, bois? That’s right: Just because it’s different, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
The Allure Of Virtual Adult Entertainment
In case you didn’t know, there are virtual strippers, dance troupes, burlesque acts, escorts, and even virtual brothels, as one of my close friends owns an AFK sim, where you can pay to perform simulated sex acts with a persons avatar. There is also a very big BDSM and kink community online, and there are many real life Femdoms, who have virtual world avatars and offer services online. And just like with real BDSM sessions, you can roleplay Femdom scenes and fantasies. There’s a market for virtual sex work, but the key factor is that it IS real work. You have to promote yourself, you have to have customer service skills, and really being a sex worker requires a skillset that most of the vanilla world simply doesn’t have, mostly because they don’t have to. And just like in the real world, you’re going to have pushback and negativity to overcome.
Protecting Your Energy Online
One of the things we talked about on the podcast, was how important protecting your energy – both spiritually and emotionally – is, and how frustrating it is to find out that you have to do that online, and in virtual, as well. We all know how crazy real life can be. Add the virtual world into the mix and it basically removes certain boundaries like distance and face to face communication, and that world gets even crazier. Because unfortunately while you have a lot of freedom in the virtual world, that freedom also leaves the gate wide open for toxic behavior such as poor etiquette, and digital harassment. I did ask Mamia about her experiences with roleplaying and while she doesn’t roleplay anymore, she did say she used to enjoy it… until people started taking things to heart, like the virtual soap operas that unfold on the grid because of hurt feelings. Now here’s my personal feelings on roleplaying.
Roleplaying As A Hobby Vs. Roleplaying For Money
There are several virtual roleplaying communities online for people who enjoy them, and I’m no stranger to roleplaying, as I used to do it years ago, in addition to my erotic writing. Personally my social battery now is way too short to take roleplaying as a hobby, because for me personally it’s draining, and only because I also do this for work. However if you like rp’s, the virtual world is the place to go. With a warning: Just like with anywhere else online, sometimes you get to know people and feelings get involved. It’s a good idea to have healthy boundaries and voice your expectations, because the virtual can turn into wackadoodle land, REAL FAST.
Remembering That There Are Real People Behind The Virtual Personas
My advice to anyone who doesn’t understand the gamer girl kink, or the interest in virtual hotties, is to remember that these are real people, with real lives, that are tapping into a market that caters to offering versatility and accessibility. There are a myriad of reasons why people enjoy playing virtual personas, and I’m not here to judge those and neither should you. I have pet peeves specific to the fetishization of black people, and I am also aware of the entirely different set of challenges black female creators encounter, so I fully support virtual work and black virtual content creators. And thankfully this is slowly changing.
The Many Reasons People Choose Virtual
For one you can express yourself in many different ways. You can literally be a unicorn or a fairy in world without judgement. Many people who are sex workers choose not to show their faces for privacy reasons, and having a virtual model gives you a level of privacy that you might not have if you used your own real life content. There are other virtual platforms such as IMVU, that other metaverse where the avatars only have a torso… (I discussed the running joke about the other metaverse, on the podcast), GTA which is also very popular, and there are content creators that use the sims for their work and roleplays. Harassment is yet another reason sex workers choose to remain anonymous. I have personally heard horror stories and experienced some of my own from when I used to work in a real life strip club. It’s important to remember that some people cannot separate fantasy from reality, and have unhealthy obsessions with the women they project onto. Privacy is important to us for our loved ones and friends also.
Tips For Breaking Into Virtual Content
Research. Research. Research. Learn how to market yourself, and remember that sex workers have to do much more because we’re promoting ourselves. It’s not going to happen overnight, but you can make a name for yourself if you do the work. I will tell you right now, this is not a job for lazy people, or for people that think a real job means working a 9-5. And if you’re a patron of virtual sex workers, remember that this is a job for us, and treat us with respect.
Sessions And Content
If you’d like to know more about Mamia Orio, hit that link and go to her website. And if you want to know more about the Ebony Femdom, you’re in the right place. Email me willow@enchantrixempire.com for custom inquiries and text sessions. Sidenote: Because people have been abusing the system, my attention on Skype will be extremely limited or non existent. So if you want a texting sesssion, you can pay on the sexy texting site, and then email me to confirm your payment. Also watch this space, because we have a lot going on in July. For calls with me just dial 1-800-601-6975 and ask for Duchess Willow. I would like to send a special shout out to Mamia Orio for taking the time to speak with me, it was a pleasure having her on the podcast. If you’re interested in being on my podcast or have an idea for an episode, hit that email. Stay safe, and stay blessed.
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