The problem with many so called submissives, in the Domination phone sex realm, is that they lack proper training for one. And more importantly they are not interested in the most important aspect of Distance Domination, and submissive training: Taking direction, learning obedience, taking correction, and FOLLOWING directions. Many older men have this fantasy of directing a woman wearing leather boots, to do what they want done to them, and be their cock sleeve and fetish dispenser.
Most of them are not interested in actually serving and taking orders from a woman – they just want a whore who pretends to be a Femdom so they can jerk off to the idea of her. There’s nothing wrong with being a whore, by the way. My point is that is the lens they are viewing from.
As for the title: This blog is for the male, female, femme, trans, non-binary submissive between the ages of 20-40+ who wants to explore, AND learn how to be a pure delight, to the Dominant who is delighting your senses. And has the coin to do so. Older men are welcome, but this isn’t really focused on you.
Disclaimer: My writing triggers the weak, the illiterate, the comprehension deficient, and those of lesser intelligence. Do your best to keep up.
Ebony Femdom Obedience Training For Young Submissives: The Five Rooms
The journey is far more exciting, when you accept the terms of engagement. Serve, learn, and obey. Now that was a generalization, I am aware, so let me be clear: I’ve spoken to men who are over the age of 50 who have been lifestyle submissives for decades and started in their 20s and 30s. And then I’ve spoken to those in the age range of 40-60+ who just want the fantasy, which is also fine, but one thing stands out: The elder entitled men who want only the fantasy, do not respect women. And respect is one of the first things you need to learn, and a necessary component of “serve and obey.”
Being submissive also doesn’t mean you’re a mindless doormat of a man who’s been coddled his entire life and doesn’t know how to properly wash his ass or scrub a toilet. It doesn’t mean you’re an exhaustive waste of a fucking human being who needs a large amount of emotional labor from women, all while weaponizing your pathetic incompetence. Submissives – many of them – are educated, professionals in their field, and they also know how to take care of themselves, and stand up for themselves. I don’t tolerate incompetence or poor listening skills, and the reward requires you to have those capabilities.
Men Benefit From Having Access To Women
I would like to note that I like men…. I do. I just refuse to tolerate their nonsense. The most important thing you need to understand about men in general, is that even those who are not into Domination phone sex, or BDSM, do benefit from having a woman in their lives, and many of them also like and need, to be given tasks to complete, and problems to solve. An idle man is a disgrace to humanity, after all. You’ve seen such disappointments in the wild. They all have podcasts and want women to submit to them and pay half.
Speaking of which, let’s talk money for a second. I know… it’s an uncomfortable conversation for the budget submissive, but I’m going to need you to lock in: Submissives must always pay for a Dominant woman’s time. I don’t care if it’s paying for Femdom phone sex, paying for Distance Domination texting, paying for a Femdom training email assignment package, paying for custom audios, paying tributes, gifts. The point is you’re paying. For every interaction. And if you’re not paying you’re an entitled freak (derogatory) who wants access to women you haven’t earned. Argue with your mother, she’s the one who raised you wrong.
Femdom Is Under The Sex Work Umbrella
Sex work platforms are designed with monetization in mind for a reason. This one is no different, it’s just a little less “in your face” which is why some of you have somehow gotten the idea that it’s okay to behave like a rabid attention starved court jester in our presence. If no one told you that, you’re welcome. In short, there is no way around this. Even if you’re looking for a real life Dominant partner, you are required to provide for her wellbeing and comfort. Coming in empty handed is the most disrespectful fucking thing you can ever do. So when someone says the nauseating words “I will do anything to serve you Mistress” “I wish I could serve you Mistress” I always ask: Do you have money? Because wishes don’t pay bills.
If it wasn’t clear to you before, or you’re new here: I’m very direct. Some people find that offensive. We live in a society where being blunt and being direct are considered rude…. It’s quite honestly the stupidest societal rule I’ve ever heard of. So be prepared for that if you decide you want all the smoke that is Duchess Willow.
Submissive Etiquette And Proper Approach – Most Of You Are Blowing It
If you’re sending walls of text and 65 emails a day expecting a woman to respond to your every goddamn whim, you should know that this goes beyond being a mere annoyance – you’re being disrespectful. This is an educational blog, not just a fantasy one. If this hurts your feelings, fix your behavior, and do better. Now that I’ve gotten my point across, and we have an understanding, let’s talk about the five rooms. This is the fun part, that is going to challenge you, if you choose to accept the mission.
The Five Rooms
The first room is obvious: Obedience training. You will learn to obey, respect, what it means to serve, a lecture on etiquette. If you made it this far, congratulations. Reading all prior 866 words was part of your obedience training. Now write me a 500 word essay on what you learned from reading the above, then pay for a phone session and you can read aloud the essay that you wrote, to me. Naked. Preferably. Men are much more vulnerable when stripped of anything they can hide behind. I am a huge advocate for CFNM for that reason. Expect many writing assignments at this level. Buy the email package if you expect me to read and grade them.
The Second Room – The Obstacle Course And Chastity
Since you’re already naked, this is the submissive obstacle course. You’re going to be dog walked, run around, trained and tried on endurance and stamina, and you will do it in chastity. If any of you have knowledge of extreme BDSM, you know there exists hot walkers, except for humans. You run the track, or walk, it’s important you get your physical activity in and keep your hands off that dick. Himbo training includes exercise. There is no gooning allowed on this level. But mind training and guided meditation are encouraged.
The Third Room – Impact Play Punishment As A Form Of Obedience Training
Think spankings, self flagellation, pain play… it worked for Catholics. Why not beat men into submission until they resemble something worthy of being in the same room as the Dominant? It’s the reason I love ceramics. Side Quest: Sign up for a ceramics class. Yes that’s a freebie. You won’t get many of those. In the realm of Femdom phone sex, pain play is on the top five list. Pain will take you places that whining and begging for free sh*t will not. It will alter your senses, it will demand your attentiveness. You will break or be broken. BDSM can do many things for you, that your licensed therapist is unable to acquiesce. It’s 150-180 an hour well spent, yes?
The Fourth Wall….. The Fourth Room
If you can endure pain, you pass onto the next level: Sitting still for hours as a human object. Completing tasks during an ignore call while I ride my sybian, practice my pole flips, lift weights, play my favorite game, take a bath. You shut the hole in your face and count your blessings and do as you’re told. You don’t exist. You might be sensory deprived in this time. Possibly being ignored and still remaining honorable is a challenge some of you haven’t considered because you overestimated your importance.
The Fifth Room – On The Edge… On The Hook… Eating Out Of My Hands… Wrapped Around My Little Finger
If you made it this far, I’m about to become one your favorite phone sex Fem Dommes. Maybe even the only and irreplaceable. Being denied pleasure is the best way to earn it. It also amplifies and enhances such. Now we can talk about orgasm edging, orgasm denial, gooning until your brain pops and melts and dribbles out of your ears. Roleplays may be hidden in drawers and closets in this room. Fantasies may be explored. Strapons may dangle from a cock rack. Bondage and nipple clamps may materialize. How intense the scene gets in the fifth room, depends on how well you’ve done in rooms one through four. You made it this far, you’ve been a good boi; you’ve been a good thing; you’ve been a good girl; now is where I touch you in a special way, and your body jerks and convulses with all the sensations. We are going to have a good time in this room.
The End…. Of This Blog – Call The Duchess Of Ebony Femdom
Now here’s how to have great phone sex. First, know who you’re dealing with. Yes I’m that bitch. You are going to need me. You already want me. I’ve shown you how to get me. Dial 1-800-601-6975 and ask for Duchess Willow. Be prepared to use your conversation skills, or learn how to. If you enjoy my writing you should stick around and join me for The Halloween Blog Train: Femdom Fright Fest. I have some mind altering entries already written from past years blog trains, you should read them while you wait.
I am very good at what I do, and I enjoy destroying men. My art is home grown. If you’d like a custom erotica, custom audio, email me at willow@enchantrixempire.com with your inquiry. Read the signature for where to buy my ebony femdom erotic audios and assignments. If you want to say thank you, do it properly. Virtual bouquet when you call or order a custom, gift cards from amazon are also welcome at your own discretion. I am delighted that you have chosen to take this journey with me. Stay safe and stay blessed oh…. and wash your ass and drink water.
Duchess Willow
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