Happy Masturbation May, everyone! I’d like to thank Duchess Willow for hosting My stop on Our sexy stroking blog train. She and I will be switching (pun only partially unintended–one of the few women I would “switch” for ?) so if you missed Her post on My blog on the 17th, please be sure to visit. But here in My installment, let’s explore a question: What is Mistress managed gooning? Further, why might it be the best choice for those who’d like to explore?
You are by now familiar with orgasm edging, tease and denial, and other forms of Mistress controlled or directed masturbation. Some of you, however, may not be familiar with gooning. By the end of this post, I hope to have provided you with a working knowledge. Maybe it will be an experience you’ll want to pursue. More importantly, I hope to inform you such that if you do, you will be able to do so responsibly.
In short, gooning is basically edging on steroids. I’ll expand on that momentarily, but it’s always good to start with a general idea.
Some cock strokers goon mindlessly, without care or concern for how it affects the rest of their lives. They lube up, pop on some porn (many times on multiple screens), and become mesmerized by images and pleasure. Some can do this safely. Others might say that’s the entire point, to dive in without heed to where or how far it might go.
Is that true?
Given that My motto remains “safe, sane, and consensual”, I have to disagree. Keep reading, and I’ll explain further.
Who’s driving this train?
Gooning without any regard for the potential dangers can quickly turn into an addiction. And while W/e may use the phrase “addicted stroker” tongue-in-cheek around here, no one wants you to develop the kind of dependency on any substance or practice that brings you to a place where it’s not fun anymore, but you can’t stop doing it either.
I subscribe to certain kink ethics. I’ll never encourage something that endangers you physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially, or legally.
And yet, indulging yourself in the serotonin, endorphin, and adrenaline-soaked escape that it can be is an alluring prospect. I maintain that it can be done while maximizing safety.
Why is safety a concern?
What could be wrong with a place where:
- your brain and your cock become one
- the world and all its worries fall away for a period of time
- all that remains is the pleasure in your cock that radiates into your whole body and mind
It’s an extremely powerful experience. It’s a power that you would be well-advised to respect.
So how do you chase, reach, and abide in that space without ending up in a place that’s not fun anymore?
Mistress managed gooning, that’s how.
But before W/e expand on what that entails exactly, lets make sure W/e’re all on the same page regarding the definition gooning itself, or what it’s supposed to be.
Gooning vs. Edging: What’s the difference?
In short, it’s the focus. Resisting orgasm versus reaching a physiological state and staying there for as long as possible. The
mastery of orgasm edging is the first step to gooning.
The usual context for edging is a Mistress’ masturbation instructions. She suggests techniques, decides how many times you will edge, or for how long. She decides whether you edge until you explode, achieve a ruined orgasm, or are denied outright (at least for that session).
With gooning, you endeavor to forget about orgasming altogether. What you’re chasing is not release, but a sort of tantric subspace just before it. I suppose it could also be called “riding the edge”. Ride the edge indefinitely, and you will hopefully reach a place called “goon space“.
Like edging, reaching goon space takes practice. But once you do, experienced gooners say you can sustain an orgasmic state for hours, without ejaculating. Some gooners get lucky enough that they can enter goon space without even touching themselves. Exposure to their trigger stimulus alone brings them there.
A few seconds of throbbing and squirting pales in comparison to that type of pleasure, doesn’t it?
Some gooners describe goon space as blissful and euphoric. An observer may see the gooner smiling or slack-jawed, eyes rolled back or closed, and perhaps their body will tremble uncontrollably. Some describe it as an animalistic complete loss of control: grunting, howling, convulsing or stiff as a board, maybe even drooling.
You won’t know how it will feel to you unless and until you get there.
Apparently, however, once you get there, you’ll know you’re there. I can often identify when a gooner pet has reached goon space by sight, but only you will know how it feels for you, when you feel it.
Sounds amazing, right? Not so fast.
Choosing the right inspiration
Gooning requires surrender. It’s hard to surrender when you can predict the next sensation because you’re the one conceiving of and administering it.
This may be why there are so many porn gooners. They need to externalize somehow to lose control. Losing themselves in visual stimulus allows them to relinquish control. And let’s face it, porn is engineered to be a straight shot to the brain and loins. There’s no need to do much more preparation or introspection than to find which images make your dick the hardest.
The problem with relying on porn to externalize is that it feels intimate, but it isn’t. There’s little opportunity for it to be otherwise. Further, the porn industry takes no responsibility, and little to no interest, in your overall wellbeing.
I’m not saying that the industry is inherently sociopathic. Rather, that it’s just not practical for it to concern itself with the effect that the unmoderated consumption of its product might have on the consumer.
Porn assumes a level of consent and responsibility on the part of those who watch it, but it’s hard to consent to something whose possible pitfalls you can’t predict. Especially when you’ve come to depend on it to reach a powerful euphoric state that in itself can be addictive.
Lastly, since porn relies on angles, lighting, makeup, and sometimes models who have had plastic surgery, to produce eye candy that’s well above what you can find or experience in the flesh, those who’ve lost control of their consumption won’t be able to find anything that generates that kind of excitement in the real world.
That’s fine if you never intend to have an intimate relationship with another human being in the same dimension as you are, but for most people that isn’t the intention. Or, they already have a relationship that will be damaged by the fact that their partner can’t compete with something that isn’t real to begin with.
The pursuit of goon space should be managed.
Don’t get Me wrong; if you are an avowed porn addict and don’t see it as a problem, or as referenced above, don’t have any desire for relationship with actual human beings, or you don’t care whether you can achieve erection as long as it still feels good to rub your cock, by all means, go forth and fry those circuits to your heart’s delight. No one can tell you how to live your life.
But if you want to explore gooning while maximizing the chance that you will not permanently alter your sexual function and psychological well-being, I contend that your gooning journey needs a different stimulus than porn. Or it at least needs to be moderated by another one.
If you’re lucky enough to have a partner who wants to participate in your pursuit of the goon state, lying back and tuning into the sensations in your cock while they stroke you is ideal.
But if you don’t, forming a relationship with a Mistress, gooning to Her voice, instructions, and the images they conjure in your very own brain (with perhaps minimal visual inspiration and the assistance of a few toys), may be the best choice.
So how would that look, exactly? Read on.
Mistress Managed Gooning
The ideal masturbatrix-managed gooning would start with a conversation. I will want to know all about you: your body, your lifestyle, your personality, your sex life, your fantasies, your kinks, your turn-ons, your hang-ups, and of course, your current masturbation habits. Probably your masturbation history as well.
I will want to know what toys you have, if any, and how you’ve used them. I’ll want to know about all of your erogenous zones, or help you discover them if you haven’t ever really explored your body. For example, have you ever played with your ass while masturbating? To what extent? How about nipple play? And don’t discount the less-instinctive sensual zones of your body: your scalp, your feet, your skin in general?
Do you like pain play? A little discomfort like ball stretching? Physical restriction like a cock ring?
Then, W/e will begin to explore. If you’re already a compulsive masturbator, maybe W/e’ll want to re-sensitize that cock a bit with some chastity or abstinence, without a cage if you have any self-control left, with if you don’t.
W/e’ll have some guided masturbation sessions with edging, and then move on to those same sessions but with more and more edges. At first, you’ll be allowed to release at the end of every session, further and further away though that release might become. Then, W/e’ll practice those sessions with denial at the end. Perhaps every time, perhaps every other time.
The mind matters.
Keep in mind that your brain may need to be conditioned, not just your cock. I’ve read that those who have experience with some form of meditation or tantric sex tend to be more successful at reaching goon space, and that makes sense to Me. You will need to be able to both concentrate, and relax, at the same time. You will need to learn to sink into My voice, until My instructions become intuitive.
It will be best if you’re able to set aside predictable times for O/ur journeying. Scheduled sessions, rather than those on the fly, are more conducive to progress and ultimate success. So is a clean, comfortable space. Cluttered environments can distract you away from the sensations in your cock.
I prefer that you appear on webcam, so that I can observe and get to know the physical changes you go through at different stages of arousal. Yes, I’m definitely a voyeur, and love to see you naked on cam during any session, but obviously there are deeper reasons in this context than simply My titillation. I don’t need to see your face (though that would be ideal), but I do want to be able to see as much of the rest of you as you feel comfortable putting on display. What your body looks like is irrelevant, but I understand that this takes a level of vulnerability whether you have a body-positive self-image or not. Please endeavor to be as vulnerable as possible.
Lastly, if you don’t read any of the other articles linked in this post, please do click on and read the article contained in the last paragraph. It will give you advice about the best setup for putting yourself on display.
Once all of this has been taken into account, W/e will chase down goon space together.
Gooning for Me, Gooning to Me
Imagine when you first experience goon space with Me. What a bonding experience! And of course, how fulfilling, how arousing it will be for Me to see such a beautiful display of pleasure, all while your cum stays safely housed in your balls.
It will be best if you become dependent on My voice to reach goon space, because unlike a collection of pixels, no matter how alluring, I can respond. I can care. It may be that once you master goon space, you will need My permission to go there. That’s another benefit to this type of masturbation management–you can’t let the rest of your responsibilities in life fall by the wayside if you need Mistress’ permission to indulge! Perhaps it can even be an inducement to greater productivity in your life, if you have to meet certain goals in order to earn the reward of some time spent in goon space, with My voice in your ear.
I know that this has been a long read, and I hope that its length can be seen as a testimony to how seriously I take this endeavor. I’m as serious about it as I am excited, and I look forward to entering the tantric cosmos with you soon!
To discuss and arrange for your personal gooning journey with Me, the first step is to contact Me via E-mail at Rachel@enchantrixempire.com.
Lastly, be sure to visit Princess Andi’s blog on May 21st, where Mistress Ryan will be sharing Her post.
To Goon Space and Beyond,
Mistress Rachel, Gooner Goddess.
1-800-356-6169
