The only person that is going to get the correlation between the second half of my blog title, and where its from, is me. I’ve made my peace with my vague references that nobody gets. Today however I’d like to discuss the spiritual act of being vulnerable as a man, when you venture into the depths of ebony femdom CFNM.
Disclaimer: I enjoy scaring my “potential” callers. Weeds out the men from the boys, and the bois. If you’re scared after reading this, just imagine what that fear boner is going to feel like, when you’re naked with my stiletto planted firmly on your skull.
Ebony Femdom CFNM – Domination Is Not A Joke To Me
I know that Ebony Femdom Phone Sex is a form of distance Domination. It is still very much real, and there are so many layers to Femdom. As such, I don’t take Femdom like it’s some fucking hobby. Most who call Enchantrix Empire already know this is a phone Femdom service. We have casual callers who just want the fantasy aspect of Femdom, and that’s fine, so long as you remember the point of female domination is not for you to top from the bottom and use us as fetish dispensers. Which is a pet peeve of mine: People who treat kink like it’s a joke, and want to “serve” us by doing what interests them. This is not service. When you’re catering to your own fantasy, you are only in service to yourself. I am the vessel in which brings that fantasy to life. You bust a fat nut, and carry on with your day. That’s not service, that’s us providing fantasy fulfillment you’d be otherwise resolved to complete with your left hand.
Serving Us Means Submitting To Us – Is Femdom A Service To You?
The short answer is yes. Don’t worry I’m getting to the CFNM bit. A submissive chooses to submit, just as a Dominant can accept or refuse you as a submissive, and often after careful consideration. This is how I know who the real subs are, vs. the subs who just want to bust a nut and go back to the real world. There’s nothing wrong with fantasy, sexual roleplays, or Femdom porn. Just know, that the little world you create in your head, is not how real Femdom goes, and most real life Femdoms are not going to have sex with you unless it’s what “they” want. Being the dominant involves leading, teaching, guidance, and a lot of emotional labor. Which is why I demand payment for my time. And even if you’re paying for my time, if at any point I feel unsafe playing with you, I can refuse you service, no matter how much you’re paying. So let me give you a stern piece of advice: If you truly want to be in service, you’re going to have to release this unrealistic and male entitled expectation, that women have to do whatever you want them to, because you’re paying them. Don’t turn your ears off just because I said something you didn’t like. I’m getting to why CFNM is such a visceral experience.
Ebony Femdom CFNM Bares Your Soul
Think about it. You’re in the mind garden of your virtual femdom space, kneeling or standing before your Dominant, after being stripped of everything that gave you a false sense of power. You’re naked and vulnerable, you can lie with your tongue, but your body will tell your truth. When the only thing you’re wearing is shame and humility; when your dick is not the centerpiece of attention; when you realize that having a penis alone is not enough to please me; when you get that gut punch and your stomach drops while your hands are behind your head as you’re being inspected, smug grin gone because no matter how smart you think you are, Mistress is not pleased with your self righteous behavior. That’s when it becomes necessary to surrender. Your pride, your ego, your useless erection and my foot on your neck. Once you realize that with one move or one word I could destroy you, you will begin to see things my way. How can you serve me? By listening and doing as I’ve told you to do, the first damn time I tell you. Remember that pain can be mental and emotional, not just physical.
CFNM Subspace
When you’re naked, nervous, and out of control, the world spins differently. Some people drop so deeply, mentally, and emotionally, that pain becomes a reward. Anything to escape the uncomfortable sensation of being laid bare. Just like with mind control techniques, once out of subspace, you may not remember everything that happened to you, only that – if done correctly – you will know you’ve done well for your Mistress. Think of BDSM as sensory perception play, for adults. I can’t take credit for that, check out Supernova on twitter. Every inch of your body, being seen and scrutinized, in a space you cannot hide anything from, lying and fabricating and exaggerating are pointless. So is CFNM all about humility? No. Some of us enjoy seeing your naked body, especially when you’re in service to us and not in a sexual manner.
CFNM Is Not About Your Dick
Doubling back to what I previously said about fantasy. I know in your head you think “wow, she’s gonna be so turned on when she sees my penis” or “I bet I’m gonna get laid.” You do not, I am not, and you will not. Your naked body provides non-sexual pleasure, when you’re my personal servant, providing something that is needed, for me. Did you not learn anything from my himbo training and house husbands blogs? It’s okay if you get an erection knowing that I’m watching that ass, just don’t expect me to be interested in your erection, solely because you have one and think it’s important. I deflate egos without trying. Think of me as the Master, and you the apprentice. You want to learn from me, start by scrubbing the floors. Imagine being trained and housebroken by doing the furthest thing from focusing on your penis?
Examples Of CFNM
A Femdom party or gathering where all the men are naked whilst the Dominas catch up with each other and have a good time. You’d be lucky if we so much as acknowledged your presence. Himbo house maids and naked butlers. Take my coat boi, but don’t you dare get your filthy man juice on it or I’ll have you tarred and feathered. CFNM Forniphilia. Naked men spread out and contorted into various (uncomfortable) positions and used as home furnishings. I do admire the male form, especially when you’re busy serving and not talking. Oh.. I can shut you up by sitting on your face? Of course I could, and I know you’d enjoy that, which is why facesitting is reserved for all the good bois who knew how to first follow directions.
Is The Ebony Femdom In Service To You?
Remember when I said I am a vessel by which your phone Femdom fantasies are fulfilled? That doesn’t mean I’m your goddamn doormat. The second you forget your place, or whose presence you’re in, I’m happy to remind you. You will need to use your brain AND your wallet, if you want to serve me. If you find that offensive, I will remind you that you have to pay to play with us, and that some of you have to pay just to have a woman speak to you. So if you’re not into CFNM humiliation, I’d suggest you think before speaking.
But Duchess What About My Femdom Phone Sex Fantasy?
Oh for hell’s sake, have you not been paying attention to everything I just said? Boooooo tomatoes tomatoes. If you’re worried you will get shot down for your kink, that won’t happen. So long as you are not harming me or yourself, we can discuss it. Speaking of harm and risky play, yes, we can talk about “those” fantasies, too. Roleplay exists so that when your dopamine levels drop and that post nut clarity slaps you in the balls, you don’t have to worry about a tarnished reputation or everyone at work giving you, “the look.” Your fantasies are done in confidence. So strip boi, get naked for me and show me what you’ve got.
What CFNM Means To Me
Men are better listeners when their pants are pulled down around their ankles and their little bitch stick is exposed. They’re also more likely to tell the truth when naked and vulnerable. Now I love a man in a suit, but I love seeing what’s under the suit, and inspecting my property. That’s what CFNM means to me. You are trusting me with your livelihood and your life, and you are trusting me when you’re at your most vulnerable. I take that seriously. As I do getting to tease and play with your naked body, and see what makes you jump, twitch, and squirm, and moan.
Ebony Femdom CFNM With The Duchess
In three days I have a featured Mistress day coming up. If you call me on Wednesday, April 12th, you get 10 free phone sex minutes to impress me. In the event that you are reading this and not yet a customer, call me today and let’s fix that. The 10 free minutes are good 1, per person, per Mistress day. If you’ve already called the first 3 Mistresses, I’d suggest you call us all. I would love to hear – in your own words – how you feel about this blog, and what CFNM means to you. I will point something else out about the free minutes:
You can do a two Mistress call and add a second Mistress for the 10 minutes. You will have to pay for the additional Mistress.
If you get the 10 free minutes you are welcome to add more paid time to your call.
Should the Mistress of the day be busy, ask the dispatcher to put you in the queue for a call back.
While you’re waiting for your callback, strip, get naked, and sit quietly until the phone rings. Or practice your writing as if you were on an CFNM ignore call.
If you would like to reach me before, during, and after my Mistress day, please dial 1-800-601-6975 and ask for Duchess Willow. I look forward to hearing from you naked bois. Thanks for reading my non-linear tangent. Stay safe and stay blessed.
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