Disclaimer: I had to think about whether or not I wanted to talk about this.
I want to be true to myself and acknowledge my truth and my boundaries. If I don’t speak up, I am allowing others to treat me any way they feel like. And I have to speak up, because I’m speaking up for every black woman who feels like they can’t, and who has ever been made to feel like their feelings aren’t valid. Right? Okay, let’s unpack… (It wouldn’t be mercury retrograde if I didn’t have to go off on at least one person)
I’m about to make some people real uncomfortable, by being an unapologetically black woman speaking her mind. Something happened tonight that really bothered me. And if you get to me congrats, mission accomplished. This also means you will never get another opportunity to do so. I was disrespected by someone who – in their quest to gain the attention of a fellow Mistress – decided they were going to blatantly disrespect and insult me to do so.
The turning point was that after disrespecting me and being told to apologize, they suddenly had nothing to say. That told me everything I needed to know about character. It also made it very easy for me to write this blog post.
It was really disgusting to watch someone go as far as they did for attention, and a complete turn off. I can’t even say I feel sad for this person because I don’t, I’m disgusted. And while it would behoove me to just ignore it and move along, far too often black women are told to be quiet, and not speak up when we are disrespected. That needs to stop starting right now. You cannot speak to me disrespectfully after I included you in a conversation, and expect me to turn the other cheek unless you’ve lost your damn mind.
I don’t even want an apology, because I really want nothing else to do with the gross individual. That’s right I said gross because that’s what it is. When you address me you address me with the same respect you would give any other Mistress. And this isn’t the first time it’s happened, and it ain’t the first person it’s happened with. I know that I was “councilled” to just let it go and not to give it energy, but with a lot of black women this is what we are taught. Under the umbrella of low key racism we are taught that our feelings and thoughts do not matter, and that we just need to suck it up because if we say anything we might make other people feel uncomfortable.
No one else is taught to do this. When non-black women start crying everyone suddenly races to their aid. When a black woman cries or has spoken out about ill treatment, we’re told to shut up, and stop being dramatic, or that we are overreacting and being too emotional. We are taught that everything and everyone outside of us is the prize, but no one ever tells us that we are the prize. We are told and taught differently and when we do anything outside of what’s expected we are told we are causing drama.
So… I guess this is me starting drama then. Because I refuse to be anyone’s fucking step stool to another dominant. This is me putting anyone who reads this on official notice: You treat me – A BLACK WOMAN – with respect, or you will be thrown out with the trash like the smelly repulsive parasite that you are. I’m keeping it 100% and saying that type of behavior turns my stomach, and that there is nothing special about people who behave this way, you are common and you are tired. And if no one else will check you, I will.
Unless you are a black woman, you have no clue how emotionally/mentally/spiritually exhausting it is dealing with ignorant attention whoring clowns like the one I had the misfortune of dealing with today. What’s worse, is that your behavior ruins it for other submissives and customers who not only know how to conduct themselves in the presence of Mistresses, but would never dare disrespect a dominant and make an ass of themselves all because they were a horny wanna be special snowflake who wanted attention.
Submissives who top from the bottom, don’t know their fucking place, and attempt to gain favor by trying to turn women against each other, are a poor excuse for a sub and a waste of oxygen. They treat themselves like they’re a prize to be won when the reality is WE are the ones doing you a favor by even so much as speaking to your lame ass. Not sorry.
This is a vent, because I have gone out of my way to be polite and inclusive to people who have continuously been disgusting and who don’t know when to fall the fuck back. Frankly I’m done being nice. This is me, a black woman, showing my anger, and displeasure at poor and disrespectful behavior. I really don’t care if you’re offended, because you’ve shown time and time again you don’t give a damn about “us.” And I’m tired of having to keep quiet while I watch black women be repeatedly disrespected by bitches who can crawl right back into the sewer they came from.
I will not tolerate being disrespected. You will not use me to put in the good word for any of my sister Mistresses, to gain favor, or to gain attention. And if you disagree with my sentiment, you can climb into the trash bag and see yourself out. I’m not sorry I had to say this, if you want attention so bad you’re willing to show your whole ass, it’s your funeral. Kick rocks.
Peace,
Duchess Willow
1-800-601-6975
willow@enchantrixempire.com
I feel you, and totally agree. People who can’t handle seeing the anger of women, and especially the anger of black women, don’t deserve to see anything BUT the anger.
And the part where they try to play us against each other? Let this lily white Mistress tell you up front that if you play that game and try to put down my sisters for being anything, in order to play up to me? I see you negging, and it isn’t going to fly with me, either. A backhanded compliment isn’t.
There is very little that sets me off and Harper when I tell you I had had enough.. I had had enough. Thank you for your words, and I would hope that most people would have the common sense and decency not to act a fool, but this is twitter we’re talking about. What made it stand out was that this person acted like they were a prize to be won, with arrogant topping from the bottom behavior that I refuse to tolerate. Onward and upward. ♥♥♥♥♥♥